How do I pick out curtains?
You spend months or even years in the divorce process and then its final. Where do you start? What do you do with your life now? So many questions running through your head.. For months you have lived in a bubble, just getting through the day and not thinking anything else. What do you do first after your divorce? Some of you might have never worked or even lived by yourself, but now at age 40 you are on your own. You get to pick our your own curtains or your own furniture. You don’t have to ask anyone’s opinion, which can be exciting and scary at the same time. Or the other side is now you have no one to ask the easy questions too.. I did not know of all the small decisions I would need to make by myself.
Who knew of all the different types of curtains that are available these days… seriously.. .All I know is that now I am picking out these damn things all by myself. I had rented a house with a million windows and all I needed was curtains. ughh… seems easy doesn’t it. I just had to sit and stare at the windows and decide what to do. I felt relieved that the entire process was over, but where do I start now. The emotions would come and go each day, with good and bad days.
I think we all get ahead of ourselves and want to build this new life so fast. I think the best advice I can give anyone that is starting over after divorce is to take it slow and learn about yourself. Its hard for me to remember the days or months right after my divorce, I think I was in such a bubble or daze throughout the process that its hard to remember all the changes. It was being on constant autopilot and no time to process the changes that I was going through. We all want to put our kids first and make sure they are happy, however its so important that we are learning to be happy also. Take time to really learn about what you now want. Some days will really suck, you learn you need to do things all by yourself. You might have never picked out your own curtains, so this is new to you you and it might take you a day to make that decision or it might take you months…either way, it doesn’t matter because you did it. Something that seems so small might be your biggest accomplishment. Take the wins!!